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safety-plan

A personal safety plan is a way of helping you to protect yourself and your children. It helps you plan in advance for the possibility of future violence and abuse. It also helps you to think about how you can increase your safety either within the relationship, or if you decide to leave.
You can't stop your partner's violence and abuse - only he can do that. But there are things you can do to increase your own and your children's safety. You’re probably already doing some things to protect yourself and your children – for example, there may be a pattern to the violence which may enable you to plan ahead to increase your safety.

Plan in advance how you might respond in different situations, including crisis situations.
Think about the different options that may be available to you.
Keep with you any important and emergency telephone numbers (for example, your local Women's Aid refuge organisation or other domestic violence service; the police domestic violence unit; your GP; your social worker, if you have one; your children's school; your solicitor; and the Freephone 24 Hour National Domestic Violence Helpline run in partnership between Women's Aid and Refuge: 0808 2000 247).
Teach your children to call 999 in an emergency, and what they would need to say (for example, their full name, address and telephone number).
Are there neighbours you could trust, and where you could go in an emergency? If so, tell them what is going on, and ask them to call the police if they hear sounds of a violent attack.
Rehearse an escape plan, so in an emergency you and the children can get away safely.
Pack an emergency bag for yourself and your children, and hide it somewhere safe (for example, at a neighbour's or friend's house). Try to avoid mutual friends or family. See the suggestions below on What to pack if you are planning to leave your partner.

Si c’était à refaire, je reprendrai le chemin de l’anorexie

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“Super-model SandraHeidoff” Issey Miyake piece. 2003

“J’ai marché des heures pour retrouver ma conscience et j’ai su que j’avais bien fait dès mes 12 ans. Cette me tendait les bras, avec sa force et sa bravoure, ma seule protection, ma seule amie. La dame blanche de l’ m’ appelée et m’ montré le chemin.

Face à l’indifférence peureuse de mon père, le mépris d’ignorance dont il avait fait preuve, et face à la jalousie morbide et aveugle de ma mère, qu’aurais-je pu faire de mieux?????

En revenant sur les lieux de mon enfance, je me rends compte que mon choix était le bon.

L’anorexie fut la meilleure arme que je puisse utiliser et aimer.

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“l’Arc de Lucrecia”. 12/05/2013. Copyrights Alice Odilon. No clone is free.

13/05/2013

Alice Odilon. All rights reserved.

 

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The defiance of anorexia

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june 2009. “Défi-Jane”. Tous droits réservés. No clone is free.

As photographer and as an anorexic woman photographer,

I’ve always used expressionists ways, and border-line ways to express myself with my photographs since 1977.

I didn’t choose the easy way, the aseptic way, the fashion way to tell the implacable illness I had to deal with,

and the exceptional gift of anorexia: sharp-eye, acute lucidity, specific search in the .

At the age of 17, I began my -portraits, without fear and superficiality, trying to connect with my authentic life.

It was in 1982, my first exhibition in Galerie 666, rue Maître Albert, Paris 4ème, was a time bomb,

because nobody told about anorexia, expect or Sheila MacLeod and Julia Kristeva.

The secret language of anorexia became public and it was the first time, anorexic self-portraits

were showed in a Gallery (Galerie 666 – PARIS ) in the world. (Gallery closed in 1988).


Today many pseudo artists play with the subject which has became a growth niche.

And now the subject is sterilized and covered up with esthetic commercial pictures they’re sold in Art fairs.

But the tortured soul of anorexia is still here and stays helpless and uncontrollable.

I tried to “enter” my work on wikipedia in order to participate to the “community”.

I was immediately rejected, because I work on the reasons of anorexia and not on the effects.


In addition of this, I’ve watched a program on TV about Stockholm solution in a specialized clinic


for anorexic daughters of wealthy families, which was the perfect demonstration of a growth business.


That’s only industry, diet clinic industry. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w_zajjRbyEo&feature=related


I’ve seen pictures made by deutsch photographer Yvonne Thein.


[These pictures were "intended as a mocking and satirical take on pro-ana".

But these pictures have been nevertheless used as inspiration by anorexic persons. Wikipedia ]

That means for me, these double edged pictures equivocate deliberately.


Because I think this photographer is in love with anorexic allure.

When I took a close look about these pictures, I realized they were a plagiary of my work already done a long time before:

http://www.aliceodilon.com/index.php?/category/130

http://www.aliceodilon.com/index.php?/category/132


The obvious plagiary is flagrant.

She just copied my pictures.

She stole ideas, style, form, look and feel, identity of my work, my author’s rights with her total witting plagiary of my work.

For me the reason of this big mistake is she’s not anorexic and she speaks about something she doesn’t know.

She just used the symbol of extreme sharp and the shield of virginity and beauty of “blé en herbe” because

she deeply, aspired to this buried, concealed estheticism. There is only a question of myth of inaccesible abstract beauty.

In my opinion, if she wanted to denounce pro-ana websites, she had to show real body of anorexic persons and not this soft,

clean, coquettish “verdict”.

Because the reality of anorexic body is:

( Source: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anorexia_nervosa)



•Stunted growth

Endocrine disorder, leading to cessation of periods in females (amenorrhoea)

•Decreased libido; impotence in males

•Reduced metabolism, slow heart rate (bradycardia), hypotension,

orthostatic hypotension, hypothermia, inappropriate sinus tachycardia and anemia

•Abnormalities of mineral and electrolyte levels in the body

•Thinning of the hair

•Growth of lanugo hair over the body

•Constantly feeling cold

Abnormalities of mineral and electrolyte levels

Zinc deficiency

Potassium deficiency

Refeeding syndrome

•Reduction in white blood cell count

•Reduced immune system function

•Pallid complexion and sunken eyes

Patulous eustachian tube

•Creaking joints and bones

Osteoporosis

•Collection of fluid in ankles during the day and around eyes during the night or peripheral oedema

Tooth decay

•Dry skin

•Dry or chapped lips

•Poor circulation (cool peripheries), resulting in common attacks of ‘pins and

•needles’ (Parathesia)and purple extremities


with a constant terrible suffering overwhelming body and soul.


Superficiality is not proper.

Alice ODILON


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Help for abused Women

Only one’s own experience can find an echo in others.

I was born with anorexia as an unwelcome gift, I had no choice but to live with it.

I was likely to be “at risk”, so, at 17, I ran away, I left home which was not home for me, but sort of hell.

Cold and destructive.

I worked as cleaner, sales assistant, to pay my Art studies during 5 years.

Art was my life’s sole objective.

I could never have survived without this all consuming and focused passion.

This Art () was stronger than any form of ; it gave me a crucial sense of life.

However I remained a person at risk: likely to fail, fall, and lose myself, because I was gifted with

a heightened sensitivity and a very acute perception, which, in a certain way was very dangerous for me.

When I was 32, I met evil in the form of a narcissistic pervert who, for 3 years, transformed my life into slavery.

I’m convinced, because I was an anorexic person, eating-disorder person, I was susceptible to becoming a victim

of a manipulator, a woman beater.


 


This outcome was a near scientific fatality as all in me was able to connect with , addiction, slavery.

But I’ve been born a second time.

Thanks to Art I have woken up and it has helped me to sit up literally.

It seems simple like that but life can be very painful when one is the victim of someone who is stronger.

My great good luck comes from my rebel side that nobody can kill.

Inside us all we need a little place of light, very strong, virtually in contradiction with the sad rest of us.

In this way we already have the tools to survive, even in the worst of times.

Antablog has been created to answer all sorts of questions that anorexics, abused persons,

or runaways frequently ask.

A sort of FAQ.

This blog is for us, for you, especially if you’re in the dark at this stage.

All the best.

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This information is provided for guidance only and you are strongly recommended to seek suitable expert advice and help ASAP, if you’re in danger.

www.womanabuseprevention.com/html/emotional_abuse.html

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